DATE: 1/13/2005 02:14:00 PM
Bitter, Bitter - The New York Times has to be seriously rethinking their relationship with columnist Maureen Dowd. If not, they really should. Her columns are usually pretty bad, but today's is especially pathetic. In it, she unleashes an angry broadside against men. Not just some men, but all of us. The name of the column? "Men Just Want Mommy." You can only imagine the content.
I'd been noticing a trend along these lines, as famous and powerful men took up with the young women whose job it was to tend to them and care for them in some way: their secretaries, assistants, nannies, caterers, flight attendants, researchers and fact-checkers.
Women in staff support are the new sirens because, as a guy I know put it, they look upon the men they work for as "the moon, the sun and the stars." It's all about orbiting, serving and salaaming their Sun Gods... A new study by psychology researchers at the University of Michigan, using college undergraduates, suggests that men going for long-term relationships would rather marry women in subordinate jobs than women who are supervisors.
As Dr. Stephanie Brown, the lead author of the study, summed it up for reporters: "Powerful women are at a disadvantage in the marriage market because men may prefer to marry less-accomplished women." Men think that women with important jobs are more likely to cheat on them.Wow. For the record, Dowd isn't married and judging by the content of this column, isn't likely to get married anytime soon.
Allow me to defend men. Most of my contemporaries are married to strong, smart women. I happen to be married to one myself. Most of us, if asked, would admit our wives are smarter than us. I don't want to marry a subordinate woman, nor do any of my friends. At least two guys I know have wives who make more money than they do. I'm in the same situation.
In fact, I would be willing to bet that most men, when asked, will admit they married up in life. Dowd's column is unconvincing, to say the least. That she uses Hollywood movies and the testimonies of women who share her bitterness to illustrate her point shows the weakness of her thesis. Maybe the men that Dowd comes in contact with are power-mad egoists. Or maybe the men Dowd has dated sense her underlying bitterness toward them and men in general. Either way, I feel sorry for Dowd, who seems to be a pretty angry person.